Questioning decisions already made
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One of the things I learned with my father-in-law was to always be forward looking. He’s the kind of person that if he leaves home and, once on the road, realizes he forgot something, he doesn’t go back to get it. Not only that. In all decisions already made, past events and anything that’s already been done, he is able to learn the lesson and look ahead faster than the time it took you to read this sentence. Simple. He doesn’t waste time. He doesn’t keep regretting, complaining, blaming himself nor others. He only sees what has to be done now and does it. That’s it.
Instinctively he understands that our energy has to be focused and used on the present, not on what we cannot change, and not on what is already over. Almost everyday someone comes up to me asking and looking for advice:
- I think I married the wrong person, now what?
- I’ve made many mistakes, how do I start again?
- My girlfriend broke up with me, I still like her though, what do I do?
There are decisions you’ve already made — or someone made for you —and there’s no going back. That’s why it’s useless to keep questioning all the time what has already been done. You got married and every time you have problems you keep asking if you should continue in the relationship. You invested money in your business and when the phone doesn’t ring as often as you’d like, you question the wisdom of your investment. You sinned and you keep on reliving what happened in your mind. Waste of time. Waste of energy.
It’s best for you to use that energy to find solutions, focusing on what you can do to resolve the problem.
Unfortunately, the majority of people waste the biggest part of their time and energy lamenting, questioning, blaming themselves or others for their situation.
Don’t be part of the majority. The actual question is:
What can you do right now, where you are, with what you have?
Forget about the rest and look ahead. Always.
Taken from Bp Renato Cardoso Blog
www.bprenatocardoso.com
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